While my best friend is jealous of me may seem a bold statement to make, what other reason do I have for what happened to me? Asks one inspiring mum today.
It was through my job that I met my best friends, we both worked side by side and in no time at all we became inseparable.
She was much older than me and had an eight year old son but the age gap never showed in our friendship.
If we were not at work then we would phone or text each other during the day. I used to babysit for her son too to help her out.
As all best friends do we shared the good times along with the bad. We were each other’s shoulders to cry on and we shared our secrets, fears and dreams.
I had no idea that four months into our friendships that I would be saying that my best friend is jealous of me.
I guess it all started when I found myself a new man, I was so happy and wanted to share my excitement with my best friend, but she became distant.
She told me he wasn’t good enough for me and I should get rid of him.
I just wanted her to be happy for me.
Desperately I tried to include her, still inviting her around for coffee and offering to babysit for her but she brushed me off.
My new partner told me not to worry too much, said he thought she maybe jealous.
“My best friend is jealous of me “I exclaimed, she’s the one with the nice house and money and has her head screwed on, it should be the other way around.
But there was no denying it; she had turned so bitchy towards me.
It started to feel like my partner and my best friend were trying to compete against each other for my time and attention. I hated feeling like I was stuck in the middle or that I had to choose one of them over the other.
If I had told her that I was going out with him for the night then she would phone me frantically, hours before I was due to go out and be desperate for me to go around to see her, there was always some drama happening.
Months past with no change but my best friend had now started to make friends with a group of other women who worked alongside us.
Of course she could have other friends but I was quite surprised as she had always said these particular women thought they were better than everyone else and we had always kept our distance from them.
Then I got some exciting news, it was the type of news that wanted to share with your best friend, I was pregnant and couldn’t wait to tell her.
I had never wanted to believe that my best friend was jealous of me and I had hoped that my pregnancy would bring us closer together, like we once had been.
After sharing my news with her she avoided me even more. I couldn’t understand why she was doing this to me and I felt hurt.
We were forced to work together one day and she took the time to tell me what a fool she thought I was.
She was convinced that it would all end in tears she told me she knew what was coming; I would be left a single mother as my partner wasn’t exactly great daddy material.
She seemed angry at me, one of her family members had recently lost a baby and here I was having one in such bad circumstances.
We barely spoke again after that day.
“My best friend is jealous of me “I thought, there was no other reason for the way she was behaving.
She also made things difficult at work for me, changing my shift times without me knowing so I would go into work at the wrong time or even on the wrong days.
I also knew that she was talking about me behind my back, turning everyone against me at work.
It became so bad that I was afraid to go into work.
I had to attend a works activity weekend with other members of the team and when I returned back to work on the Monday morning I was suspended, for gross misconduct.
I had no idea what for and I had certainly not done anything wrong, I was eighteen weeks pregnant and terrified that I was going to lose my job, I needed the money.
My so called best friend never spoke to me from that day on.
It took endless meetings and three months to prove my innocence, with witness statements in hand the case against me was dropped.
I was offered a different job in a different department and I took it, thankfully they were welcoming as I was terrified of returning back to work.
I went on to give birth to a healthy baby boy and my relationship with my partner grew strong, he turned out to be great daddy material after all.
It still hurts to know that the women who I trusted to be my friend turned on me.
My best friend is jealous of me may seem a bold statement but what other reason do I have for what happened to me?
What do you think? Was her friend just jealous, let’s hear your views
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